However you found your way here, you're welcome.
This page is my love letter to my husband, Malcolm-Jamal Warner.
And before I was either, I was simply someone who believed that emotional life deserves the same reverence we give to physical health. That belief has a beginning. The words "I'm a feelings doctor" first came out of my mouth on an ordinary day, and our daughter, small at the time, received them with a tenderness that told me something in our home had bloomed the way we'd hoped. From there, everything grew.
My husband saw the inner light of a child, and of a grown-up too, as something worth tending with tenderness and constancy. And we never saw strength and vulnerability as two different things. To us they were the same, one couldn't exist without the other, like us.
Before I was the River & Ember founder, I was a doctor of psychology.
My name is Dr. Tenisha Warner. I'm his wife, a mother, a doctor of psychology, and the founder of River & Ember, and I'd like to invite you to walk alongside these words as I write them.
To the river that carried us.
To the ember that never goes out.
To the river that carried us.
To the ember that never goes out.
You were the one who saw me first. You told everyone I was a doctor of psychology before I had the breath to say it myself. Seven years of studying while raising our daughter, and somewhere in the tiredness the pride goes quiet, you stop being able to feel it even when you've earned it. You felt it for me. You held the pride up while mine was resting in the background, because you were so sure, so proud, I was the best thing in the world.
Now I'm living in a world without that, without the sacred container we held for each other. So I'm learning to hold it for myself, and for our daughter. That's our legacy.
You live inside River & Ember with us. That's part of how we stay together. Every part of it will always be shaped by you, by our love, by our daughter, by what we brought to each other. This is who I will be for the rest of my life.
Tenisha
I love you so much.
Your love was the first story I ever wanted to keep telling.
you're welcome here.
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